You’re born with hundreds of thousands of immature eggs in your ovaries. Each egg carries half a potential baby’s genetic information. (The other half, of course, comes from sperm!) Every month, your body chooses one promising egg to mature. Once the chosen egg is ready, it’s released into your fallopian tubes. It’ll stay there for a day or two, waiting for sperm. If it’s fertilized, it’ll travel into your uterus, implant on the wall, and become a baby!
A telling sign of healthy eggs is a healthy menstrual cycle. Every month, your body develops and releases a single egg. A healthy cycle:
In this department, timing is everything. It’s really helpful to have an idea of when you’ll ovulate. Try to have sex more often during your ‘fertility window’, the four or five days leading up to ovulation, and a day following it. There’s no risk in having too much sex — it doesn’t hurt the quality of sperm. Just make sure you don’t feel pressured, and that you’re both still having fun.
Figuring this out is easy for some women, and difficult for others. It depends on how regular your cycle is. Ovulation happens roughly 14 days before your period starts. So for those with a regular cycle, using a calendar to track it may be enough. All you need to do is count back about 14 days from when you expect to get your period. There are also tracker apps available for iPhone and Android. Some will even send you a notification when it’s time to get busy!
If your cycle is irregular, you’ll have a harder time predicting your window. Try to be conscious of any ovulation symptoms you experience. These vary from woman to woman, but more common symptoms include:
Changes in your lubrication down there are often the easiest sign: when it’s clear and slippery, you’re likely ovulating; when it’s opaque and sticky, you’re probably not.
If you’re still struggling to figure out when you ovulate, there are more sophisticated techniques. Many people recommend basal body temperature charting. We don’t – it’s a lot of work, and the data it produces is difficult to interpret.
Instead, we encourage you to use a home urinary LH detection kit. It checks your urine for certain hormones, and is a much more simple and reliable approach. You can probably pick one up at your pharmacy.
You probably already know the basics of your cycle, but let’s explore it a bit more. A woman’s cycle normally runs about 4 weeks, but it’s normal and healthy for a cycle to be anywhere from 21 to 36 days long. The menstrual cycle is powered by estrogen and progesterone hormones, and is generally divided into three phases:
Counting from the first day of your period, the first seven days or so are the follicular phase.
Remember that menstrual bleeding is your body’s way of removing the unused “nursery” (thickened, extra lining) in your uterus, since there wasn’t a fertilized egg to use it.
But now that your body is gearing up for a new egg, it needs to build a new nursery for it. So estrogen levels creep up slowly, stopping the menstrual bleeding, stimulating the thickening of the uterine walls, and singling out one “chosen egg” to start maturing.
Mid-cycle, or just before, the luteinizing hormone spikes. It causes the ovarian follicle to release the mature, chosen egg. This takes about a day.
Now that the mature egg has left the ovarian follicle, it travels to the fallopian tube where it waits for a couple days to be fertilized by sperm.
Meanwhile, the now-empty ovarian follicle begins producing progesterone, which maintains the thickened uterine lining (the nursery).
If a fertilized egg doesn’t implant in your uterus within about two weeks, progesterone production sharply drops, and that extra cushy uterine lining will begin to contract and shed, beginning menstrual bleeding (your period) and completing the menstrual cycle.